tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8160647031280507069.post2446554857857146818..comments2023-10-09T10:28:04.236-03:00Comments on Adventures of a Gringa in Brazil: No Brazilian Wives Here!Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15421142287093429996noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8160647031280507069.post-91812087490251269952012-06-10T22:20:00.838-03:002012-06-10T22:20:00.838-03:00My folks are from Brazil and I visited back in the...My folks are from Brazil and I visited back in the early 2000s. Im glad Im not a Brazilian wife either. Its mostly older people and poorer people that staunchly believe in "a womans place is in the house." But here in America, I've met the most educated middle class people saying the same with stay at home moms. One difference: They have servants. I dont want to be a traditional wife in any country: all the work and responsibility for the man to take all credit. My folks dont miss Brazil at all. Im not surprised.Juliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07760587810724200411noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8160647031280507069.post-22329391070210341152010-09-30T06:17:26.103-03:002010-09-30T06:17:26.103-03:00I sweared to myself at a young age I wouldn't ...I sweared to myself at a young age I wouldn't become a Brazilian wife. That my future husband would do the half or more of the house chores and help with kids. My mother told me to marry a gringo. I did it.Anitahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03565051295371049516noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8160647031280507069.post-43413879834347450762010-09-07T01:24:13.863-03:002010-09-07T01:24:13.863-03:00i can totally understand what you are saying, but ...i can totally understand what you are saying, but you also have to understand that this ancient thinking is dying, and who still thinking like this are usually older people, and if you ask womem who do everything at home and works are usually happy with their role, they don't complain or are unhappy; they don't feel like a slave. We grow up knowing how it is, and what is expected from us, so when the time comes, its not a big deal anymore. But since you werent raised like most of women in brazil were i understand how it looks for you, but try to see things the way women in brazil do. <br /><br />You have to see that they are happy with that, I live in the usa and i cant say that this freedom that woman has here is that much better than what we have in brazil, women here are so worried about equality that they forget what it is to be a woman.<br /><br />But, as a brazilian woman i can say i was never ignored or neglected by any means for being a woman.<br />I do belive that many things need to be different in brazil, and a lot of them has to do with women, but i think thats not near bad as you made it look like.Carlanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8160647031280507069.post-91741209562536305732010-09-02T12:24:19.041-03:002010-09-02T12:24:19.041-03:00Spot on observation. When Luiz and I first got he...Spot on observation. When Luiz and I first got here this dynamic manifest as my MIL insisting on our having a housekeeper 3x/week so she could cook for us and iron our underwear. Surely two guys would be useles in the kitchen or around the house -- nevermind that Luiz had lived on his own in the US for the past 24 years (and I had moved out of my parents house 30 years prior).<br /><br />The first time I insisted on cooking my MIL hovered near the stove to ensure I peeled the carrots and did not burn the rice. We have come a long way - and I do not pretend to understand the pressures placed on women in this regard.<br /><br />It has always been paradoxical to me that Brazilian women, is seems to me, put so much time, energy and resources into looking fabulous head to toe, complete with sexy open-toe shoes for every occasion. (Modern women, old-style role.) And it infuriates me that Brazilian men can hook up with women (not their wife or girlfriend) and experience so little fall from grace. It is so widely expected of them... sigh.Jimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14003236423048071844noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8160647031280507069.post-20329774724837812092010-09-02T12:17:08.119-03:002010-09-02T12:17:08.119-03:00Hi, Linds.
I found your blog through Danielle'...Hi, Linds.<br /><br />I found your blog through Danielle's! Soooo funny. I love your wit! Get'cher own sandwich!<br /><br />This post reminds me of a discussion I had with one of my students the other day. She's in her mid-thirties, has a husband and kids, and although educated to be an accountant, is a stay at home mom. She went to Sweden a few years ago and was chatting with this guy when she realized it was time to go home and start dinner for her husband. The Swede looked at her incredulously and said, "Are you kidding me???? What are you, a slave!??!?!? Let him make dinner for you!" To which she responded, no-- I'm not a slave. It's an agreement that we've come to. He takes care of the bills and the making of money, and I take care of the house stuff. <br /><br />But she doesn't realize that this agreement is easier perhaps for her family unit to come to, because of the culture of sexism, where men are expected to perform in the public realm while women take care of the home. It's kind of an unspoken agreement in most cases.Fionahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16573852836225948640noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8160647031280507069.post-56779178886834478432010-09-02T11:20:59.763-03:002010-09-02T11:20:59.763-03:00I want to be a Brazilian wife, just the kind that ...I want to be a Brazilian wife, just the kind that has an "Empregada"! lol :)<br /><br />Can totally relate!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com