So, I stumbled upon my old blog that I kept all throughout university. I'm currently in the middle of reading the entire 3 year collection and all I can say is it's hilarious!!!! First, because it's purely a diary. Like "today so-and-so did this to me" and "I'm so mad I can barely see!" While it's not all that much different from this blog, it's way more personal, and dare I say, risqué? I go into a LOT of personal detail that I would NEVER share here. Does that mean I've become more censored as a person or just that my audience is different?
Haha, one thing that's kinda flipping my mind is that it appears that I used to have a very easy time talking to my friends and telling them EXACTLY how I felt about them. I wasn't afraid to show my rage, my frustration, my sadness, or the pure elation I had from being friends with them. I felt totally entitled to speak my mind.
It got me wondering if friendships like that are still possible, in our adult lives? I have met some incredible people living in Brazil (especially incredible because they are multiple nationalities who share a common experience - wild!). I would even say I have some very good friends here. But are friendships nowadays the friendships of our past? Is that even possible? I don't know if I would feel comfortable laying it all out on the table for my friend, because I wouldn't want to risk too much conflict or fighting.
Maybe it's the nature of friendships here... they all feel temporary. At least because we know that one day someone will leave. Or maybe it's because we are all just guests in this country, and don't have the same roots and histories of our home countries. Maybe now, as adults, we have the capacity to see what the future 'means', and that things don't last forever as we once thought in our naive adolescences.
Or maybe it's even simpler than that, and this is just growing up. We develop nuclear families that satisfy our need for close, intimate relationships and our friendships become like the Clinique Bonus Gift (gotta say though - I always LOVE that bonus gift!).
Anyway, just curious to know how anyone else would evaluate friendships in the past vs friendships today. Do you think you've become less 'intimate' with your friends? How do you maintain intimacy if you have it?? So curious about this....
American Exbrat in São Paulo
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